In this post I give you my 10 signs that you lack self care, based on my own experiences and with examples of what I used to do.
I wanted to talk about this topic because it is such a vitally important subject.
So if you struggle with self-confidence and self love, if you wonder how on earth you could even love love yourself and are hyper critical about yourself then you may do some or all of the things I talk about here.
Self love affects the way we view ourselves, the decisions we make, the relationships we have and how we show ourselves to the world.
The first step towards change is self awareness.
So read on (or watch below to go even deeper) to learn about my 10 signs that you lack self care and how to cultivate the self awareness and mindfulness that you need to change it in yourself.
1) You hide your true self from others
You change your personality to fit where you are and who you are with
Always hiding certain parts of your personality that you don’t want others to see, maybe you would be perceived as too woo woo or spiritual, too this or that
Like a chameleon you change your behaviours to change yourself, you study others and copy them thinking that they are better than you
2) You over analyse
The habit of over analysing, picking apart everything that happens in our day
Over thinking all the things that were said to you or about you
Or even worse sometimes, over thinking and over analysing what you say to others to the point that it drives you mad
3) You have a strong fear of being judged
You worry about what others think of you
Constantly think about what others feel about your clothes, your hair, your make up etc
What you post on social media, what you say, what you do
You keep yourself small to stop yourself from being judged
You don’t feel acceptable as you are
Your feelings are usually highly irrational
4) You struggle with your physical and mental self care
You don’t treat yourself well
Skipping meals or over eating
Maybe you overindulge in other substances
Never taking time out for yourself, neglecting your own self care and your own self worth
5) You feel inferior to others
Insecurity is rife in your life
Always putting down or criticising you intelligence, your appearance, your personality – all of you
You are hyper aware of others and judge yourself against what you think others are like
But you never quite measure up to anyone, no matter what you do
6) You are too hard on yourself
Focussing on your failures and never seeing what you have actually achieved in your life
Appreciation for yourself is non existent
You never feel satisfied with what you already have so there is no gratitude evident in your life
7) You lack confidence
You dont say what you want
Keeping yourself quiet, keeping yourself small for fear of actually putting yourself out there to be criticised
Feeling it is best to not have an opinion at all, and never wanting to have to explain your point of view
8) You need excessive affirmations or attention
You need to know you are doing okay
Needing outside affirmations from others, others to tell you that you are okay, that you are loveable, that you are valid, that you deserve to feel better
Its emotionally taxing and oh so tiring to need so much from others but then to never take onboard when they told you what you wanted to hear
9) You have difficult relationships
They may be unstable relationships
You shut others out for fear of rejection
You feel inferior so you do everything for your partner and nothing for yourself so you may feel your relationships are one sided and will look for evidence of this everywhere you can
10) You have a fear of reaction
You cant love, you shut people out on purpose
You wont feel true emotion for fear they will leave and you will get hurt
The only person you can count on is yourself, and even then you know you are flawed so you dont actually trust anyone
You wont let anyone in, you know that if you do and truly let go then you could be overpowered with your thoughts and feelings
You have armour that you hold around your heart , you harden yourself to feelings
So where to from here…………
Id love you to watch my video on how to love yourself here
Or maybe even check out my 15 days to self care course here
Or consider reading my book, more details here
